How to create a life you love: becoming yourself

When I was deciding on a tag line, almost 2 years ago, for this new iteration of my business (aka when I became FrancescaVerri.com), I toyed with a quite a few words to help describe what I really wanted to do with my business.

For sure I wanted to help people get organized, teach them how to stay organized, motivate them to adopt a simple-living and minimalist approach to life.  But it was much more than that. I wanted the outcome of doing all of that work getting and staying organized to have an even greater impact on how my clients feel. I wanted it to be more than the typical feeling they have after making such major changes to their space.

They do feel good!

I can say with 100% confidence that my clients have always felt something actually better than good after working with me to lighten their load. In fact, that is exactly what they feel: lighter. And they have said it as such. Some almost seem amazed at the feeling of lightness – as in how impactful that light feeling has had on so many other aspects of their life.

And that, my friends, is what I always wish to have happen for my clients.

It is, in fact, why I decided on create a life you love for my tagline. To create a life you love, I believe, you must create lightness. But it is not just about just taking steps to declutter and decide on what has a purpose in your space. Although that matters greatly. It is also about digging deep to decide on what has a purpose for your life. Because when you have purpose for your life, you live more consciously. You make decisions differently on what you own. You live in a way that allows you to be fulfilled, and live a happy life.

Lightness matter and so does creating space. It is, in fact, integral to how you create a life you love.

Creating a life you love is about making the space – in your home, your head, and your heart – to become who you want to be.

The truth is when you deal with all the thoughts and things that clutter your space and your mind you are freer and clearer on what it is you want from life. And what you need to do in order to get it.  You see things better; you can literally breathe more easily.

When you have more space you are more willing to do what is necessary to create the life you want. Even if it means un-becoming everything that isn’t really you.

That kind of unbecoming can be pretty scary. It carries with it a need for a level of authenticity. A level that requires you to really be aware of who and what matters most.  And be courageous enough to discard what doesn’t. Through the process what you realize is that what is most important are the thoughts, things, and people who actually add value to your life. They remind you of who you want to be, and what your purpose is here on earth.

That is what matters.

That is what you organize, what you keep, what you use. It is what keeps you going, makes you happy, feels fulfilling. All of that doesn’t come from imitation or limitations. It doesn’t come from comparison. And it doesn’t come from the outside. It comes from the inside.

create a life you love

It comes from a place of knowing who you are.

…nothing important, or meaningful, or beautiful, or interesting, or great ever came out of imitations. The thing that is really hard, and really amazing, is giving up on being perfect [in the way people expect] and beginning the work of becoming yourself.

“This is more difficult, because there is no zeitgeist to read, no template to follow, no mask to wear. Set aside what your friends expect, what your parents demand, what your acquaintances require. Set aside the messages this culture sends, through its advertising, its entertainment, its disdain and its disapproval, about how you should behave.

“Set aside the old traditional notion of female as nurturer and male as leader; set aside, too, the new traditional notions of female as superwoman and male as oppressor. Begin with that most terrifying of all things, a clean slate. Then look, every day, at the choices you are making, and when you ask yourself why you are making them, find this answer: for me, for me. Because they are who and what I am, and mean to be.”  – Anna Quindlen

It comes down to choice.

Your choice to decide to make a change, to be authentic. To decide that you are worth becoming, regardless of how much you must un-become in the process.

It is your choice to think and do and act as you need in order to create a life you love. It is your choice to decide to be the kind of person who is healthy, fit, organized, productive, on time…happy.  Because when you choose this you make becoming your best self possible.

The world needs more people who are their best; we do more for others when we feel good about ourselves.

So, you can get clear on who and what you want to be. And then make changes, build better habits to actually become that person. Or you can play it safe and closed. And wonder, as your life moves on, what it might have been like had you decided to become something different.

create a life you love, becoming you

Clean your slate – physically, and mentally.

Declutter your life so you can open the pathway to becoming who you were meant to be, and live a life you truly love.

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If you need help becoming clutter free – whether in your space or your head, contact me set up a free phone consultation. It is a good first first step in creating a life you love.

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