To Creating a Life I Love
“The journey to create a life you love is just that – a journey. Embrace it as such, believe in your ability to change and heal, so that you can evolve with your life, and enjoy it fully.”
My journey to making meaning in and of my life has been one of transformation and redefinition. It has also been riddled – like for most people – with failure, difficulties, stress, and feeling unwell.
But I have discovered not just through certifications and degrees but through digging deep to learn about myself that it is in the willingness to transform and grow where we become well. I didn’t know all of this when I started my coursework to be a certified Holistic Health Coach through the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. And soon learned that wellness – wholeness – is more than what you put on a plate. It is all the things that support your life that don’t have to do with food. Being able to work effectively, relate intently, connect spiritually, and love deeply are all components of well-rounded wellness.
In my life, previous to receiving my certification, I was struggling with my wellness. I was anemic, hypoglycemic, had osteoarthritis, fatigue, aching joints, an irritated gut, and a seeming inability to get pregnant. I wanted to find more sustainable ways to be healthy. So when many painful fertility treatments failed and because I was feeling quite unwell, at the age of 40 I decided to dig deeper to find the root cause of what was going on. I saw a Functional Medicine Practitioner who tested me for and diagnosed me with severe Non-Celiac Gluten Sensitivity. This diagnosis was, in fact, a bright spot because it answered a lot of what was going wrong with my health. But it also propelled me to change my diet and a lifestyle and mindset that weren’t serving me.
You see, with infertility – like any diagnosis that feels heavy – it can be tough to pay attention to your self – who you are and what you want. The voices of well-meaning people everywhere seem to crowd you, leaving you feeling overwhelmed and directionless. For me, these feelings left me depressed and sad and often confused about what my next step should be. I wasn’t comfortable feeling this way. And I wanted to change. I wanted to experience life differently, and live it more fully.
Embracing a new way of thinking – a minimalist mindset – being willing to change and to continually discover more about myself, allowed me to make more meaning in my life.
Over the course of three years, feeling a need to lighten the weights that were holding me down, I went on a full purge of the noise all around me. I started with the food I was eating, which was leaving me feeling bloated, achy, and stuffed, and embraced living Paleo – which was more about creating a balance between eating, moving, sleeping, and relating well than just eating no grains, dairy or sugar. The dietary changes healed every one of my ailments and left me feeling stronger, more alert, and happier.
I continued my purge with the thoughts that were swirling in my head, leaving me feeling not good enough and unprepared to be a mother, then moved on to people in my life that were pulling me away from the path I wanted to be on. I aimed to move out what wasn’t serving me and added in what helped me grow. On a recommendation I picked up Gabby Bernstein’s book May Cause Miracles and started a 40-day meditation. That book helped me love myself more and slowed me down enough to appreciate everything around me. I also replaced my aggressive gym workouts temporarily with yoga. Yoga helped me listen intently to the messages I was getting from my body which felt like it needed softening, stretching, and opening up. I paid attention to what I was feeling – that there was more to gain with less.
This minimalist mindset I started to develop before I even named it – of deliberately adding in only the thoughts, things, and people, that informed my life positively completely transformed me. It changed how I lived my life and did my work.
And I know it was the reason I eventually got pregnant. Yes, I did get pregnant! Three years after we stopped fertility treatments and decided to look into adoption, after completely changing the way I ate and moved my body, and how I processed thoughts in my head, after hearing doctors tell me getting pregnant on my own just wasn’t going to happen, it did. And while it ended in miscarriage, it still provided a beautiful lesson. It led me to minimalism, to think more clearly and act more intentionally. It opened me up to experience more, and soon after welcome our beautiful daughter that we adopted.
While motherhood presents itself with its own set of challenges, my growing understanding and use of minimalism is my go-to tool to help me heal, solve, and complete anything difficult that crosses my path.
I know there are no coincidences in life. There was a reason I was going through a major lifestyle change in order to heal my body, at the same time I was going back to school to get certified as a holistic health coach. I wanted to learn about ways to more fully help people embrace the necessary changes to attain wellness like I did – not just through what they ate but how they lived.
It was also no coincidence how much organization for me – in my work, my own space and with my thoughts – played a major role in going through this drastic change successfully. Everything came full circle, and beautifully into focus at that time. I could see quite clearly the connection between attaining wellness and organization. I lived it, and could see how the two fed each other. And today, I am so happy to be able to help others become more holistically well through organization.
My wellness philosophy is simple: Wellness is a state of mind that is cultivated and created by how we choose to live life. And what we choose to have in our life.
I believe when we are clear on who we are and want to be and consciously choose the contents of our life we can build it on more solid ground. When we are deliberate to let into our head, heart, home, and body what nourishes we gain physical energy, and mental clarity to make positive lifestyle choices, and create a life we truly love.
Francesca made the foundation steps of my academic journey manageable and we set specific, realistic goals each step of the way. She held my hand through the scariest of times in this journey and gave me the support I needed to step into my truth. She is generous in spirit and wisdom to help clients walk the path towards their highest potential.
The day you left my reorganized house I absolutely felt lighter and more in control of my space and my life. I will never return to the chaos of before because now I have systems in place to help me stay organized.
You have been the guiding influence for this year of “living life lite” for my family. I can’t thank you enough for all of the inspiration and coaching on living verri well.
Francesca brings a positive energy and boundless enthusiasm to her work. I intended to put my home on the market, but the chaos of our accumulated stuff made that impossible. After several sessions with Francesca, I couldn’t believe the progress!
Francesca, thank you for making me whole again!!! You showed up at every meeting ready to guide me on this empowering journey with passion, wisdom, patience and thoughtfulness. It’s still unbelievable how much progress our family has made.
Francesca Verri is exactly what I needed to begin to view my life differently and make positive changes in the right direction. ! The process of streamlining my life by letting go of what doesn’t work and organizing what does is making me see all the possibilities ahead.
I went to Francesca because I was living in constant chronic pain and was at my wit’s end. My body responded very quickly to the diet and lifestyle changes she recommended. I’ve noticed a ton of positive changes: steady weight loss, clearer skin, no pain, no diabetes, normal blood pressure readings, better digestion. I can’t say enough of what this has done for me!
To say that Francesca saved my life would be understating the fact that she added years to my life. By following Francesca’s instructions, I am on my way to a cleaner, healthier life.. The changes have been dramatic. I feel amazing, mentally and physically.
Francesca Verri saved my business! My systems were failing; I couldn’t get caught up with clearing the papers – they were everywhere; and I didn’t know where to start in getting organized. She worked side by side with me to organize my office and provided me with valuable tips and skills on staying organized so the systems we set up are still running, still efficient and have increased my productivity 10-fold!
Francesca taught me how to think differently, and helped me change years of unproductive habits — all with compassion, kindness and good humor. I started out wanting to gain space in my home, but what I really gained was space in my brain. Now I can use my mind to think about the things that really matter.
Without Francesca’s compassion, understanding, motivation and professionalism, I would still be sitting in the middle of my floor clueless as to how to help my business and myself. What she does for you, your business, your family, or your personal life, is nothing short of amazing.